Christa 0:00
Welcome back to another episode of The Wild and well collective podcast. And today we have Linda with us. Linda Bess, and she is an amazing resource around how to live your life fully, but in alignment with your life's purpose. And so I think I want to open this conversation with kind of first, let's How did you get to where you are? I know that you worked with big companies. I would love to know how you kind of went from the role that you had in, in that with working big to with big companies, to becoming kind of a one on one, coach or coach, to really help small businesses thrive, right? Because
Speaker 1 0:36
everyone's doing that now, I feel like and but 11 years ago, when I was doing it, not everyone was doing it, right? So I walked away from an 18 year career working for big companies like kimton hotels and restaurants, Jamba Juice, Disney, had my own firm. You know, there were a lot of perks, like the parties and the restaurant openings and the hotels and just there was a lot of benefit to it. But at that time, it was not mainstream at all to be Woo, right? Like you were either fringe woo or you were corporate. And, like, never the two met, right? So that was really intense, because I was very Woo. So I was, you know, on one hand, going to these opening parties and doing branding for these big companies and and, like, playing that game, but feeling like, you know, they all have their eco initiatives that they were doing, but they weren't really interested in in, like, saving the world, right? They weren't really interested in, like, a whole what? Well, we now kind of take for granted as just a more holistic way to approach life, or that, that we might need to have wholeness, we might need to have integration, that there's more than just, you know, cycling, like having your your eco program. So I felt very out of it in a way. So I, like, lived across the street from an ashram. Part of the time I was getting my yoga teacher training. I was learning how to do a be a Reiki practitioner. I mean, things that were honestly back then. So out there I was living in Berkeley, and I was like, first I live in San Francisco, and then in Berkeley, and I was from Michigan, so like, what is happening and but I felt like I had to keep them very separate. So in my corporate life, and at these meetings, I was walking in, you know, and, like playing the game, doing really great work, but feeling disconnected from it, because I was feeling, fundamentally, I was not helping planet Earth, right, like not helping anyone in a in a significant way. And I had that call to you, you go chant in an ashram, or, you know, talk to your guru, or whatever, you know, you do these things too, and you realize, wow, there's this whole other thing happening that that none of us are talking about. And then in my spiritual circles, same thing, right? I was not walking in there saying, like, oh, I own an awesome company, and I'm, I'm killing it with these projects. I
Christa 2:42
was like, they didn't care. They wanted to focus on more, like, the big picture of living in life and, yeah, integrating the two worlds. I find that in health too. It's an interesting meshing, right?
Speaker 1 2:55
Yeah, it's still happening. But I feel like there are a lot of us now, right? There are a lot of us, especially women. And honestly, back then, it wasn't that the people in spirituality didn't care about the professional stuff. They actually judged us, right? They actually felt like what I was doing was not okay, right? Taking money from big companies, you know, opening more restaurants or hotels, just that, fundamentally, that my role in the world was, was, you know, you're either fixing it or you're the part of the problem, right? That was the mentality. And so there was, like, I had to be careful of being judged. I would play up my, you know, I'm a graphic designer, I'm an artist, right? So I in the spiritual circles, I would bring that aspect of myself forward. But none of my, like, you know, sort of more powerful business aspects, and then in the of course, in the corporate side, I wasn't bringing forth any I never said like, hey, let's get grounded before we start this meeting. So
Christa 3:50
along that thread, how? So I know now you, because I had the pleasure of working with you as a mentor, and I know that you bring in human design. And not everybody even knows what that is, whether or not they know it exists. It does play a role in their world. And so how did you come about, and if you want to explain, you know, kind of high level the concept of human design, and how did you get into understanding human design, and how do you integrate that now in your work with high achievers? Okay,
Speaker 1 4:24
big questions. Alright, so I was listening to a podcast. So they do help transform people's worlds, that's the beauty of them. And I had this just epiphany. I was listening to this master coach, and I really just understood in that moment that coaching, and this was 12 years ago, right? So coaching was not as popular as it is now. It was considered a little bit risky. What I was doing, right? People still didn't really even have that language of like what a life coach or a health coach was. So I heard this podcast from a master coach, and I thought, oh my gosh, that's it. This is my and I didn't know it at the time, but I was. Trusting my gut, which that is part of my human design. So I got into a coaching program. And luckily for me, my coaching program, the founder of it, embraced human design, and so I became part of an elite coaching group within the within the coaching school. And I just remember this weekend away where he just dumped human design books on the table and all of these resources. And he's like, figure it out. You've got to do this to thrive. You've got to do it to thrive, and you have to do it to help your clients thrive. So it was instant love for me around human design at a high level. Human Design is a typing system, okay? So just take out all the woo or all the the things. It's a typing system, like the Enneagram, like, you know, like astrology, basically, is like Myers Briggs or disc or any of these assessments. My husband got his his master's at Wharton, right? And the first thing they did was put them in the Myers Briggs typing system, right? So it's, it's not that Woo to use a typing system to figure out basic things about your personality, how you interact with others, how you make good decisions, maybe aspects that help you thrive in teams, or help you, you know, navigate the work and life that's coming at you. So at a high level, that's what human design is. It does have a bit more of a woo aspect to it, because it is sort of, it was a channeled system, and it is based on astrology and Kabbalah and some other maybe more esoteric spiritual systems in terms of how they overlay it to the body. But from super practical, I'm all about just pulling out what we need to know to actually use something. So I think if you just hang your hat on it's a typing system, and it can be used to better navigate life, you're golden. That's
Sheree 6:39
beautiful. Thank you for explaining it that way. Because I think, like you say, there can be that. Ala, be that element of, oh, it's a little bit too Woo. I always crack up at the memes. And it's like, when, when a girl asks you what day and time you were born, run over the hills. And it's like, it's because we're into this sort of beautiful where I can it, can go down the path where it's very we're very integrated with it. And I know, like both Krista and I love going deep into this, but I also think it's fantastic that you can look at it a high level, take it from a really practical element. And I know one of the things that was quite transformative for myself when I found out about my human design was as a projector. I knew I learned that I'm supposed to really only work about four or five hours a day, or I'm going to burn myself out. And so if we're thinking about, you know, your work in the corporate world, we're thinking about the clients that you work with. Now, how do you have some of those conversations, or how do you get people to wrap their head around potentially changing the way that they're working or the way that they are implementing things into their business, because for me, it felt in alignment when I heard that, but actually actioning it and not constantly overdoing it is a completely different story, right?
Speaker 1 7:49
And so I tend to work with coaches and healers and business owners, and I think many of them have bumped into those ceilings that exist, right? So many projectors have already reached the point of burnout. You know, many manifestors are like, trying to go, but just don't have the energy. There are some built in things that are just going to happen to you. You may not know why they're happening, but by the time they've reached me, likely that some of them have happened. So I have not found it hard for someone to resonate with their description, right? They learn their type, and they're like, oh my goodness, no wonder. And I think Krista had that, that experience of like, no wonder. And all the time, my clients thanked me for giving them permission. They're like, thank you so much for I knew that intuitively. I knew I should slow down. I knew I couldn't keep up. I knew you know that I should go, even when other people told me I shouldn't, right? Because there are some types that should like, go, go, go, and other types that should not. And people generally, intuitively understand something about their design. And when they're given, when they see it in black and white, it's like, oh, the you know, the relief, right? So that's stage one. Is the understanding your type, and I really look at that as a path of radical self acceptance. And you know, when we're talking about worth, when we're talking about confidence, we're talking about putting yourself out there, taking that next big step, any of those things that that we're up to and wanting to do in our world, it's got to come from radical self acceptance, because if you're not accepting you who you are, and you're trying to pretend that that's the imposter syndrome, that's the perfectionism, that's the self doubt, that's all the stuff that pours in. So in general, I don't find it all that hard to get someone to accept who they are, right? But then you said the funny, the hard word by actionable. Well, what do I do? And I think that that's like any self growth work, right? You have the Epiphany, now you have the understanding, and now you do what we call deconditioning. We talk about it all the time in human design, but it's not a human design word. You're going to do it if you're in therapy, if you're do somatic work, probably a little bit in your health. Coaching right, unearthing all those layers of shoulds and have tos and obligations and other people's stories, figuring out you really discerning what is mine, what is mine, what is true for me, what you know and Chris, I loved this one interview that you and I had where you said I was scrolling, and I started going into, oh, look what she's doing, and oh, look what. And I said, No, I am not doing that right now, right? So that's an example where Krista knew, Hey, wait. Comparing myself to someone else and getting lost in someone else's energy is not going to serve me. So how do I come back to myself? So it's just a long practice of taking on certain behaviors, discernment, becoming aware and then picking up different tools.
Christa 10:45
For me, I think it's interesting. You said most people don't have a problem with recognizing I think it gave me permission to some things that bothered me about like we want things to be different about ourselves, because of comparison, because of what society tells us, our parents, or, you know, whatever the influence we all have it. I know, personally, for me, it was I would beat myself up over not having these brilliant, unique ideas. Well, guess what? I'm one of those uh huh, or like, something has to be presented to me before I say, Yes, I love that. No, I don't like that, like, that's just in my nature to not necessarily be a creator of something brand new, but I can certainly pick out things that I find. Yes, 100% this works for me, and so that helps me get out of that. I've got to create something. No, I just have to say, Hey, I'm open to some amazing ideas coming my way, and then I just pay attention, whether it's a movie or a book or a podcast or a conversation or something that I'm like, oh, that lights me up. I think I'm going to explore that. And how can that be part of of my next creation? But it's not like from scratch for me, because that's not my gift, and that's okay. And I think the other thing that really stood out to me is sometimes I am very much an extrovert, but when I walk in a room, I definitely have the people that I want to talk to, and then people that I'm like, some of my friends would just talk to anybody and blah, blah, blah, and I'm like, I always kind of would beat myself up of like, Why am I being so picky about who I'm talking to in this Room? And that is part of because I'm an is it, I think opportunistic, like I am meant to only really be attracted to conversations or or whatever that really are in alignment with my purpose, right? And the rest just kind of really are in the shadows to me, and that's okay. It gave me permission to be who I am and not feel like I have to do what the friends are doing, or what my parents say I need to do, or or whatever, whatever influences around me. It really does give you permission to be like you know what this is, who I am, innately am. So I think that that is a really beautiful thing about this typing or understanding that what how can knowing your purpose, knowing how you operate, I would love for you to expand on how you teach others and your clients, to use this to really be fearless and feel unstoppable in your life, in your life and in your business, and really expanding who you're supposed to be or who you're meant to be, right? So how can this information really help you bloom? I guess is where my mind goes.
Speaker 1 13:26
You just gave the most perfect description ever of what the power of human design do you you're you're like in the the night, the one percentile of people who are like, Hey, I just am this way I walk into a room. This is how I do it, you know. And I used to beat myself up for it, and I don't anymore, right, like, that's the big win in humanism. Most people want that, so let's have it like unstoppable. That's what I call it, right. That kind of blooming right. And unstoppable to me is that you feel agency, or you feel like you have the power to continually move toward what you desire or want in life, right? And that you can do that over and over and over again no matter what life brings you, right? So that, to me, is a, you know, it's we have a society that tells you it's one and done, or like, you know, come out if you're not going to come out successful the first time, don't bother playing attitude. And it's just not true, right? So being unstoppable is about having this resilience and the belief that you have agency or power. Now, the three big things that I think human design gives you, you know, in order to enact that, is the first thing that you said, purpose, right? When you don't know your purpose, you're just fishing around, following other people, looking at what's around you, or listening of being influenced when you actually came here to do something right. And human design can be a very complex system. You can really dive into all these different rabbit holes, but 70% of it is your conscious sun and life purpose, 70% so like imagine if you were getting seven. 90% of your life, right? That's a huge amount, right? You're already in the ballpark of Winnie when you when you do that. So knowing your purpose is all about, you know, really being in that deep alignment with yourself, with the world, and that's where synchronicity comes, right? When you're in that deep alignment, things like you said, for 70% of us, life just shows up in exactly the way you need it to bringing you everything that you need, the next experience, the next opportunity, the next learning. So having that kind of alignment so that life can show up for you super, super powerful. It also lets you stand in power, right? So when you have the feeling that yes, I can enact this, or Yes, I can go toward what I desire, or, Yes, life does bring me what I need, it to and for projectors, right? 20% there you're you're not waiting for life to bring it to you. You're waiting for people to invite you. You're literally waiting for the, you know, sort of the the invitations to come in the in the mail or the email or from another person. So that's very different, right? So if you and the 20% were trying to do what the 70% over here were doing, or the 9% over here, right there, these four different types are really meant to do life differently. So when you know your purpose and you know your type, how to stand in your own power and how to engage with life in a way that moves you toward what you desire, it also really helps you make the right decisions. Okay, so think about the amount of decisions you have to make in your business, in your career, with your family, with your friends, with just to navigate life. And if your decisions are good ones, ie, they move you toward getting the outcomes you want, great but when they're not good ones, that's the How did I end up here? Why did that happen, right? So human design literally tells you how you make great decisions. That's like a secret weapon, right? You said, I walk into a room and I just decide because you have an automatic decision maker that you can rely on, and then that helps you understand the knowing your type, knowing your decision making style, really can help you understand how to best get along with other people. And that is another huge component of a successful life, is how do you negotiate with other people? How do you ask for your needs to get met? How do you relate with other people? How do you deepen connections with other people? And so purpose, decision making and connection, right? They're all baked right into the system. They're in black and white, they're not very hard to understand, and they lead you to having an unstoppable life.
Christa 17:25
I think it's really cool to have just going back to my own personal one, if I may, for just one more second. You know, I was feeling stuck. For instance, when I was working directly with Linda, I was feeling really kind of frustrated, where I was just working virtually with with health coaching, right? And I was kind of in resistance to getting a brick and mortar and going in, because that was kind of like, No, I made this decision two years prior. I was going to go online, and I finally was like, you know, if this is meant for me, I'm just going to put it out there. And literally, within probably a month, I had a friend reach out to me and say, Hey, I've got a friend who's got a space that's, you know, very low commitment, very low cost. Like, let's, you know, it was just, it was a yes, it was a it was a gut yes for me. And I think when I knew that coming from a space of feeling just stuck in my situation, sticky, one thing just always, I felt this resistance, and then all of a sudden, when I just put it out there, hey, if this is meant for me allow these opportunities to come my way, and it did, and I do feel more energized. It's just an amazing tool to feel more intuitively in alignment. I mean, there's a big difference between feeling sticky and stuck, and I think we all know that feeling, whether it's a relationship, work, life, whatever, you just know it. You know that sticky feeling and to get out of it and finally shed that. And that decision might be difficult, but when you own that and you move on and you feel that freedom there, we all know that feeling, that that difference between sticky and alignment, I
Sheree 18:54
think you said something beautiful, that that we keep kind of circling around, and Chris has touched on. It's like that element of permission, and that self awareness and almost that level of self acceptance, that this is part of my being, part of who I am. It doesn't necessarily define me. But one thing I'd love to dive into deeper that also keeps coming up is this idea around the intuitive side and really listening to like Chris just said, the gut feeling like there's something nagging at you. I know as a splenic projector, my gut, my intuition, is an absolute powerhouse. And I also know as women, we have been taught to really shut that intuitive part down, especially if we think about in business, we're taught to show up. You're supposed to shop the exact same way each day and think about how our hormones even operate. It's very different for women, and we've been kind of molded and put into this box to not listen to the gut feeling, not listen to our intuitive side. And so when we're looking at human design, or when you working with a client, how do you get them to start to lean into trusting something that they may have been suppressing for a long time? So that they can start to live in that alignment, that can get out of that sticky situation?
Speaker 1 20:04
Yeah, it's a great question. The reason it happens is because, as a society, we've all been taught to rely on our minds. Okay, so part one is understanding that not one of the decision making styles in human design is your mind, not one all human beings. 100% of human beings have a decision making style that's somewhere down in their body, okay, wow. Okay. It's their emotions, it's their intuition, it's their gut, it's their you know, there, there are different things, but all of them are from here down. Okay, so that's step one. Is really helping someone understand the mind is powerful. You want to use it. It's a tool. It's your ally, but it has to be in service to the real you. Otherwise, it's what we all call monkey mind. It's the the mind is like a computer that just crunches on why? And you know, so if you're feeding it, you know, why isn't that working? And how come this? And then it just starts turning and churning and churning, and then you have no possibility of making a good decision, right? Because you are up here circling around in a very unproductive way, and you're not in touch with anything that's happening sort of in your body. Okay? So that's the very first thing, is really helping a client understand the real role of the mind. The real role of the mind is to enact whatever this down here has decided, okay, right? So decisions, 100% of the time, never, ever, ever, ever, come from your mind. You don't have to think about anything that is just not part of it. So that, once someone understands that, and I can give so many examples, and we all can go, Oh, I totally understand what you're saying. There'll be some example that you're like, I've done that 100 times. Okay, now I get why it's not working, right? So once you understand that that's step one, step two is all of us also have made decisions in our life and had experiences where, for whatever reason, we did just go with whatever was coming through our body, right? Like we felt like it was a good fit for us, or we had the gut you got knowing that that was an aha, right? Or we had this little flash of splenic intuition that that thing is for you. We've all had moments in our life that, for whatever reason, we didn't overthink it. We just did the thing based on our true decision making style. So really, it's just a path of discovery for the person to look back and identify those times when they did make really good decisions for themselves. And there was that flow, there was that ease, there was that spontaneous thing that happened that they couldn't really explain, right? And it went well. So looking back on those, you can start to identify, oh, that's how it works for me. And then we're giving them practical information like, Okay, if you're a splenic authority, do this. If you're if you're a sacral authority, do this. Hey, if you're emotional, I never want you making a decision unless you sleep on it. Right? So there's just some practical things you can do to enact more and more of that good decision making as you move forward. And it's an experiment, right? You're going to live your way into your design. So I always talk about, you know, it's not that, you know, like, so I really don't recommend diving into learning everything that you can around human design. It's an enormous, you know, it needs to be compared to something like astrology. No one would ever just say, like, Oh, I'm going to read a few blogs. And then I know my I'm I can read your chart. It's human. Design is a very complex system, but if you stay with some of this high level, big concepts, and you learn about them in a practical way, and then you start living your design, that's when you're going to get the big ones. That's when it's going to start happening
Christa 23:39
for you. And I think just like anything, if you take it in, like a fire hose, it's going to feel overwhelming and like, What in the world. But I think, like you said, understanding, like the high level, the 70% of who, what your human design shares about yourself is, is really where to glom onto initially. And going back to kind of how, how we even establish human design, what is the premise of it? It so it has to do with where you're born, the time that you're born. So it's literally a physical location and point in time. And am I understanding it correctly? It's the energy around the time and the space that really impacts some of these. Can you expand a little bit
Speaker 1 24:23
more? I have no idea why it works. Astrology. It's the idea that that you, you know on a soul level, decided that in this incarnation to learn whatever lessons you needed to learn, to build the strengths that you needed to to interact with the people that you wanted to interact with that you chose a moment in time to be born. You chose a location and a time, and, you know, on a plate, a place, a time and a date, right? So when you come in, the stars are in certain position, the planets are in certain position. Energy is a certain way, right? And so this is the idea that that you have all. Of those energies coming together in a unique way. And when I say unique, I mean, you know, I've looked at hundreds of different people's charts. No one is the same, no one. And there are probably 100 different variables that make you, you know, make up your human design. And so we could say, oh, 70% of us are generators, yes, but, and then you get into the other layers of it, and I am nothing like you. Are crystal like I'm a sacral generator. I am nothing like you, right? Like you have different strengths, different talents, different interests, different so it's really mind blowing how very different we all are. So this idea that we would ever look to another person to have any in bearing or influence on what we're doing. It's so ridiculous.
Christa 25:46
I love that. And I find that this is, you know, so signs, let's say, put all of humanity into 12 different buckets depending on what month you're born, right? And so to me, I mean, I very much resonate with a Sagittarius, 100% if you read the definition of a Sagittarius, I'm like, hello, let's be but I think it is so much more specific and and I always say, well, it's just by chance, you know what? If I would have been born early, or did that change my whole entire personality? Complete little tweaks, I think, with human design, which I think is more specific to me at that very moment in that time, the energy that we were surrounded by at that time. So I like it, because it feels human design, typing feels so much more unique, like you said, like it's just very specific to you, and it just feels more like, Heck yes. Well, see, that's how I know something is for me or not for me. Yes or no. Yeah, it's a yes for me. But
Speaker 1 26:45
you just bring up something beautiful. That Charice mentioned earlier was like, you know, everyone's saying, Oh, I'm I'm this type. And this is very much like the early days of astrology, astrology, back in the whatever it was, 60s, you know, like, Hey, Baby, what's your sign? That was when it went mainstream, right, where people actually began to accept, oh, I do fit in one of those 12 buckets, but there's so many layers in astrology too, right? Then it also depends on your rising and your moon have a huge influence. So one Sagittarius may very different than the one next to them, because of in a it's just as layered, right? It's a huge, enormous system, but a little bit of it went mainstream, and the same thing's happening in human design, right? It's going mainstream. So there are the like, the way that people are pulling out the like tidbits of it, like, Oh, I'm a one, three sacral Gen, you know, like the people are using lingo and stuff that I'm just like, what, I don't want to know your thing. But what, what I think what I think we are getting at is that human design has some very practical applications. It's one thing to know you're full of energy as a Sagittarius, or you like to do the the Astrology can be just as powerful, but you have to really learn the system and work with someone to help you, you know, understand it. But human design has some very practical applications that you can learn pretty easily. You still need to get the instruction, you still need to to do some learning, but it has some very practical applications. Like, this is how you make a decision. This is how you interact with another person. This is how you bring new opportunities to yourself. And those are the big three that we're all looking for. Are
Sheree 28:17
you able to explain just because I feel like there's a lot of our listeners that will still be sitting here going, Okay, I don't even know what these four types are. Can you at a high level, you've talked about, you know, being a generator or a projector and, like, obviously, we're very familiar with the concepts and the terms, but you said there were four different types. Can you just outline what they are? And then maybe, you know some of the other things that you've just mentioned, those big three, how we can start to just notice or become aware of things within ourselves that might really connect us to our human design, and start to bring that alignment through, sure.
Speaker 1 28:52
So the four types are generators, manifesters, projectors and reflectors. Okay, and I'm very blessed or cursed, as you might say, to have one child of each right? Except for the reflector. So the reflectors just 1% of the population, but they're just not a lot of reflectors. But I've worked with a number of them, the generators. Both my husband and I are generators. We're the workhorses, right? So that this society that you're looking around at, we really was designed by generators. It's for generators. It's the this idea that you can that work is a huge part of your life, and that you derive satisfaction, right? And that happens like you, you will the generators on the weekends. You know, we're involved in projects. We're like, we, we don't we. We are not laying on the beach. You lay us on the beach, and we're like, two hours of that, like, okay, so what are we doing? Right? Let's do something, and that's whether you're a manifesting generator or a regular generator, right? 70% of the population are is a generator of some type, that type, and they have sustainable energy, and they have a lot of loyalty to what they commit to. So that's why it's so important that they commit correctly, right? That they use their decision making style correctly, because once they commit, they're going to kind of stay there. So this explains why so many people are stuck in jobs that they're unhappy with, or they're stuck in relationships that they're unhappy with, because they they made that decision, whether they made it correctly or incorrectly, they made it and now they're kind of there for the duration. So that's a huge chunk of the population. Projectors are 20% of the population, and although there are more and more of you coming so I have my son as a projector. And projectors, honestly, bless your hearts, like you're meant to, like, lay on that couch back there, right, or back in the days where they had those, those loungy couches that just had the one side, and someone was like, waving a palm frond over you and feeding you grapes while you right. You're literally meant to do that while you look around at all of us generators. And you're like, she should do a little more of that, and he should do this. And like, could you two stop doing that? Right? Like you're literally meant to just guide but not meant to get off that couch. So now think about the implications of that if you're a parent, or if you are at work and you have a team, yeah, if you don't know that someone is a projector and they're trying to lie on your couch and you are a generator, and you are busy doing that, can cause a huge amount of friction. I had to remind myself so many times that my son was doing exactly what he should do. A projector is really meant to just follow what brings them bliss. So if you want to spend the day gardening, if you want to spend the day on the couch, if you want to do video games, if whatever your thing is that brings you bliss, do that, and it's actually going to bring all the right opportunities to you.
Sheree 31:35
I've got so many follow up questions to that, but the other two. And then
Speaker 1 31:39
there's the manifestors, and my daughter's a manifester, and then and when, and my other son is a manifesting generator, right? So there are three generators. We have a projector and we have a manifester. And manifestors are only 9% of the population. So manifesters have they're the ones that create all the time. They are compulsive makers. They make our doing look pathetic, right? They're they. They're like, like, I have an idea and I must enact it, right? So they are just these massive creators, but they don't have sustainable energy, right? So they create and burst, and then they leave the mess. And they don't have any interest in, like, finishing the thing. They just wanted to have the idea and get it going. And they're only 9% of the population, so they actually don't like get to see themselves mirrored in society much, right? And other people can treat them like they're kind of weird because they we don't trust them. The 90% 91% of us don't trust manifestors, because we can see that they have this agency that we don't have, right? We're all supposed to be responding in some way, right? 91% of us are supposed to sit back and respond, either wait for the invitation or wait for situations to respond to, or reflectors, just reflect the people that are around them. But a manifester is meant to actually initiate so they we don't trust them because of that. And so we can really be kind of wary. And so they're really need to inform us when they're going to do something that can smooth the way a lot, right? So that they say hey, and they do not have to ask for permission. So again, as a parent, when you know that your daughter does not need your permission to do anything she would like to in the world, that's a big aha, right? When she's three, and she's like, so I'm blah. You're like, Okay, right? That is your design. You go, girl, right? And you then you just are, like, running around trying to make make it as safe as possible, right? But think about how many manifesters were actually told as kids to cut that out, sit down and be quiet, you know? So it really has massive implications in parenting and in teams and places where we're going to be involved with a lot of people, and then reflectors, again, 1% of the population. They're really there to mirror the health of our communities. So they're really meant to be part of communities. They're going to catch all those themes of all the people around them, and kind of mirror back. So it's super important that reflectors get themselves into environments that feel really good for them, right? The health of their environment is their health? So selfishly,
Sheree 34:07
ask a question. But just just because I feel like, if there are people listening and they're like, Okay, I really resonate with one type. Or maybe they going, and they're looking at their human design, they're coming back and pushing, pushing play. For me when I hear the predictors are supposed to lie on the couch and they're supposed to guide and they're just supposed to rest it, it, I then go to the question, Well, how am I supposed to run my business? How am I supposed to achieve the things that I meant to achieve when I'm living in a world where I'm in like, it's very generator dominant, and we reward the idea of being productive. We reward this eight hour, 12 hour work day. How do you kind of help your clients navigate through the differences when they aren't, I guess, put in the general bucket of the rest of the population. So
Speaker 1 34:54
for a projector, it's really important that you have autonomy in what you're doing. So you want to have a role in a core. Operation or a role in your business where it's results oriented, not time based. Okay, so never sell your time as a projector, because you just don't have a lot of productive time with each role or type. We're also given the gifts to pull that off. Projectors are fast, right when you do sit down, when you do have that like, you're blissed out, you're doing something you love doing. You're really enjoy. Somebody calls you or some opportunity just invites you in, and you're like, that sounds great. And you do it, you're just going to do it with with, like, a lot of grace and ease, right? So it's not going to take you that long. You don't have to work so hard. That's just not how you're designed. So you're going to sit down in in that two hours, lock out, you know, if, as long as you're in aligned action right, like you put the replenishing. So all of the types and the the activities that you're asked to do, they all rely on trust. If you don't trust that, the right invitations are going to come in by you following your bliss. If you can't sit in trust around that, it's not going to work. Same for generators, if you cannot sit in trust that your only job is to get clear and send that out and wait for life to send you the right opportunities. They're not coming right right? And that's where you're going to go into your not self, your bitterness, your frustration, you're going to let the monkey mind go round and round and round, right? And that then life is very hard and difficult, right? But when you can sit in trust, when the manifester can say, like, Hey, I trust. I'm just supposed to have the idea, and then I'm going to pass it off to some awesome generator, they're going to bring it to life, right? So it's about learning what your personal formula for success is, right? And it has something to do with your human design. It has something to do with your purpose and what you came here to do. It has to do with the impact that you want to make. Has to do with the people you're surrounded by. But there's some formula that reliably works for you, right? For me, it's relying on my human design, leaning very into my human design, and coupling that with somatic clearing work. Okay? So if I reliably do that, I make my decisions based on human design. I act as a generator in my human design. I use my strengths in my human design. So I build my business around that, I build my brand around that, I build everything around that, and the tool that really works for me to stay out of monkey mind, to clear out past stuff, to keep my body clean and clear, so that I can make those gut based decisions, is I do a tremendous amount of somatic work. Okay? So I'm cleaning and clearing living as my type, and then anything I want I can have.
Christa 37:38
I love that. I know that you really are passionate about helping people become, and you mentioned it before, unstoppable, and you talk about the formula. And so what I hear you saying, and I want you to expand a little bit on this, is the formula isn't a one size fits all formula. Can you expand a little bit on, when a client comes to work with you, what is your formula for them to become unstoppable. It's going to be different for everybody.
Speaker 1 38:04
So it's not one size fits all, right? That's the heart crushing news. I'm sorry I don't have the magic bullet, but you have a magic bullet, right? So the beauty, beautiful thing is you, in your design, in in the location you are with the people that are around you, with those sort of inner desires that you have life is conspiring to help you do those things right? And you're usually much closer than you think you are, right? There's just so it's first we we start with where do you want to end up, right? What's, what's that inkling that you have? What are those desires? What are those little nagging things that you've that have been telling you things aren't working right, because we know where we're trying to go, then we can start to look at, well, what might be in the way of that. There's almost all so then we back up to, here's how you're designed, and here's where you want to go. So now what you know, obstacles, impediments, things are in the way of that, and that's usually a lot of conditioning. And so when I say I use somatic work, it's because I have to decondition, you know, stuff that came up from trauma in my childhood that made me we all adopt stories from our life experience, and that's called conditioning, right? And it comes in like you're saying, because you live in a culture, because of advertising and social media, because of your bio family, because of the people that you now are in family with right? There's just the ways that all of this conditioning shows up. And so there's figure out, what are the specific blocks between you and where you want to go, and what are the tools that would be helpful for you in removing those blocks or getting around them or working through them? So it could be circular breath work. It could be journaling. It could be spending more time in nature. It could be somatic clearing, right? Everyone has some set of tools that tend to work for them, but they haven't been working because they didn't know their design. They were living in monkey mind. They were not and they didn't have clarity about where they wanted to go, and they're not directly addressing each obstacle that's in their way. So your four. Is going to be something like that from that like, Well, based on your design and based on where you want to go, the way for you to get through these obstacles is x. What
Christa 40:08
can you expand on somatic clearing? We've talked about that before in the podcast. I think for me, it's very powerful too to see, like the if I have to have, like, a gut feeling, yes or no. There is a lot that can kind of get in the way of that. So just briefly, I think most people know what circular breathing is, you know, meditation, that kind of thing. But how do you use somatic clearing? What does that look like?
Speaker 1 40:33
Yeah. So the button on this idea that the body keeps score, yes. So emotions are meant to be felt period. They have one job, and they, if you honestly felt them at the moment they arrived, it would take about 90 seconds, okay, but most of us don't do that. Most of us are like, ah, you know, like, I don't want to feel the bad things. I don't want to feel I'm trying to feel good here, right? Like, so we have a lot of resistance, okay, that stickiness that you were talking about is generally a pretty high amount of unprocessed emotions and a lack of emotional intelligence, right? Once you become someone emotionally intelligent, you stop accumulating new emotional stagnation, right? But we all have a fair amount of it, just from our childhoods, because think about Here you are. I just told you that these types are super different, and that if your parents didn't know your type. They likely stepped right on top of it and told you to cut it up. Okay, because it didn't feel good to them, or it didn't work in their cultural belief system, or it didn't work in the stress that was happening to family. They're not blaming anyone. I'm just saying that in that moment that you felt extreme disappointment as a child for something big or small that didn't happen and you weren't able to actually feel that because they told you to stop crying or to suck it up or to just get on with it, or whatever they told you, you just stored that little emotion right inside your body. Right? All of that stored emotion every time you step into a situation that reminds you of that initial thing. So let's say disappointment comes. Let's say you have a campaign and you send it out in crickets that disappointment is going to push on the all the disappointments that you've stuffed in your body and lo and behold. Now it's not that a campaign didn't work, and what should you test and refine? It's really, actually very simple. If you have a campaign that fails, there's just like, a set of steps you can go through to, like, some tweaks and try again. Try again, right? But instead, we make it a whole thing, and it's about all the failures we've had and how maybe I'm in the wrong business, and maybe I'm not meant to do this, and maybe I'm not, and we just go into every story we've ever had about disappointment. I know that
Christa 42:41
master right here? Yeah,
Speaker 1 42:42
so you, you've got to address that back load of stored emotions, right? You gotta clean and clear that so that the and then you've gotta create some emotional fluency, right, some emotional intelligence, so that when your partner does something that's disappointing, or your team does or something happens, you process that disappointment in real time today, you clear out any old disappointment that that's bringing up and so that you can move forward with we really need our powers right here. This is the only moment we actually have like yesterday. Already happened. Tomorrow isn't even here, right? The only power we have is in this exact moment. So you have to be as clean and clear as possible to take full advantage of this moment.
Christa 43:28
I feel, I know I feel so energized again after listening just to this conversation, and we could go on and on. In fact, I might have to talk to you, Linda about a part two, because I think that this is for people. But how can people work with you directly? Because I think that when I think as humans, we're very attracted to personalization. We want to know our DNA and we want to know our blood, you know, like we want to know and I think there's going to be a lot of listeners that are interested in their own unique human design, which they can look up online. But how do they manage that? I think that's what where your power really is, where you help take that information that someone could look up online, but then really personalize it and really blend that with what they're trying to pursue in life. So how can people find you? And we'll put it in the show notes as well. But how can people tap into your world and work with you? Yeah,
Speaker 1 44:20
just Linda bosso.com, so everything's there.
Christa 44:25
Thank you so much for taking the time to be here with us, I think. And I know Cherie, like she was like, Oh my gosh, this topic is amazing. And so
Sheree 44:32
please come back for part two.
Speaker 1 44:34
Okay, yeah, thank you. It's such a pleasure. Yes, I
Christa 44:38
can't wait to talk again, Linda. Thanks again for being here and for taking time to share this beautiful typing with us and how we can really live our lives unstoppable. As you say, I think that's what we ultimately all want, and it's just you help us tease out how to actually do that. So thank you.
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